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Our Wedding: Vows & Readings

September 15, 2016

INSPIRE

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As I mentioned in my last post, our reason for doing our ‘legal bit’ separately was to give us the freedom to have exactly the day we wanted on our main wedding day; this included the ceremony itself being conducted by one of our best friends as well as writing our own wedding vows and choosing wedding readings special and personal to us.

Vows

Technically we more adapted our own vows than wrote them from scratch. We found these vows on Pinterest which struck a chord and used them as a basis. We changed wording that didn’t work for us and then added our own few lines at the end. This is certainly a technique I would recommend as a starting point for anybody who might like to write their own but is apprehensive – it’s an incredibly daunting task!

When I was wedding planning I became pretty obsessed with finding examples of what real people had chosen (opposed to Buzzfeed-style lists!); so I’ve included both our vows and wedding readings in full for anyone who is doing their own research or just fancies reading some pretty words.

Our Vows

C: I can’t promise you that dark clouds will never hover over our lives,
or that the future will bring us only sunny days.

W: I can’t promise you that tomorrow will be perfect or that life will be easy.

C: I can promise you my everlasting devotion, my loyalty, my respect, and my unconditional love for a lifetime.

W: I can promise that I’ll always be there for you, to listen and to hold your hand, and I’ll always do my best to make you happy, and make you feel loved.

C: I can promise that I’ll see you through any crisis, and laugh with you, dream with you, build with you, and always cheer you on and encourage you.

W: I’ll willingly be your protector, your advisor, your counsellor, your friend,
your family, your everything.

C: I will promise to try my best not to make us late, to find the ‘funny’ in all situations, and make you tea every morning.

W: I can promise that I’ll try not to rush you, I’ll go to gigs with you on a Monday night, be your kitchen companion and accept that there is no such thing as watching Buffy too many times.

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Yep, that’s confirmation in our vows right there ^^^ that I can watch as much Buffy as I like for the rest of my life! 😆

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Readings

We really wanted to have readings from that rang true to our passions and geeky nature. I think researching words from the worlds of literature, cinema and music was one of my favourite tasks when wedding planning. I even found myself delving through our cookery bookshelve wondering if a reading of a favourite recipe would be appropriate! We decided against that, but it was fun to analyse unusual sources in the context of being read aloud as a wedding reading.

In the end, we chose readings from my favourite film, Will’s favourite book and a song from a favourite band of ours. These were ‘Come What May‘ taken from Moulin Rouge which was read (rather emotionally) by Will’s mum, an amazing acoustic performance of ‘Sunday’ by Bloc Party by one of my cousins and an extract from ‘The Amber Spyglass‘ by Philip Pullman, read beautifully by another cousin.

Wedding reading number 1.  ‘Come What May’ taken from the film Moulin Rouge

Never knew I could feel like this
Like I’ve never seen the sky before
Want to vanish inside your kiss
Every day I love you more and more
Listen to my heart, can you hear it sing?
Telling me to give you everything
Seasons may change, winter to spring
But I love you until the end of time
Come what may, come what may
I will love you until my dying day

Suddenly the world seems such a perfect place
Suddenly it moves with such a perfect grace
Suddenly my life doesn’t seem such a waste
It all revolves around you
And there’s no mountain too high, no river too wide
Sing out this song and I’ll be there by your side
Storm clouds may gather and stars may collide
But I love you,
Until the end of time
Come what may, come what may
I will love you until my dying day

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Wedding reading (song) number 2. Cover of ‘Sunday’ by Bloc Party

Heavy night it was a heavy night
Feels like we come back from the dead
Heavy night it was a heavy night
I cannot remember what I said to anyone

If we get up now we can catch the afternoon
Watch the under 15s playing football in the park
Let’s sit in St. Leonard’s in this alcoholic day we’re doing the best with what we’ve got

I love you in the morning,
When you’re still hung-over
I love you in the morning,
When you’re still strung out,
I love you in the morning,

I work hard all week, and so do you
We deserve to let off some steam
Less orthodox creeping when we need to rage through this life
There might be ones who are smarter than you
That have the right answers
That wear better shoes
Forget about those melting ice caps, we’re doing the best, with what we’ve got

I love you in the morning,
When you’re still hung-over
I love you in the morning,
When you’re still strung out,
I love you in the morning,

With you I am calm
A pearl in your oyster
Head on my chest and a silent smile, a private kind of happiness
You see giant proclamations are all very well
But our love is louder than words

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Wedding reading number 3. Taken from The Amber Spyglass by Philip Pullman

She sat down slowly, and he sat down beside her.

“Oh, Will,” she said, “what can we do? Whatever can we do? I want to live with you for ever. I want to kiss you and lie down with you and wake up with you every day of my life till I die, years and years and years away. I don’t want a memory, just a memory…

“No,” he said, “memory’s a poor thing to have. It’s your own real hair and mouth and arms and eyes and hands I want. I didn’t know I could ever love anything so much. Oh, Lyra, I wish this night would never end! If only we could stay here like this, and the world could stop turning, and everyone else could fall into a sleep…”

“Everyone except us! And you and I could live here for ever and just love each other.”

“I will love you for ever, whatever happens. Till I die and after I die, and when I find my way out of the land of the dead I’ll drift about for ever, all my atoms, till I find you again…” 

“I’ll be looking for you, Will, every moment, every single moment. And when we do find each other again we’ll cling together so tight that nothing and no one’ll ever tear us apart. Every atom of me and every atom of you…

We’ll live in birds and flowers and dragonflies and pine trees and in clouds and in those little specks of light you see floating in sunbeams… And when they use our atoms to make new lives, they won’t just be able to take one, they’ll have to take two, one of you and one of me, we’ll be joined so tight.”

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Hope this may have been interesting or even useful. I’d love to know what you chose / are choosing / would choose!? Let me know!

Our Wedding: The Legal Bit in Bristol

September 14, 2016

NURTURE

This month marks our 1st wedding anniversary so I’ve got a few wedding-y posts lined up to share. As well as a few pics of the big day I’ll be sharing our readings and vows and my tips for buying a vintage wedding dress. First up here’s a little about our ‘Legal Bit’, our Bristol wedding…

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As our lovely wedding venue in South Devon didn’t have a wedding licence we decided to not worry about having a legal ceremony as part of our day and instead took care of that bit beforehand. This allowed us to have a very personal ceremony, exactly how we wanted it, in a beautiful setting at our Devon wedding. Although we were already officially married, that day was the real thing to us and we celebrate our anniversary on September 12th, but of course doing the legal bit beforehand seemed like a fine excuse for a little pre-celebration-celebration…

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The “legal bit” took place in Bristol the Saturday before. Will and I got ready and arrived together and met a few close friends at the Bristol Registry Office. In the end, we decided against inviting our families to this part. As they all live outside of Bristol and it felt like making too much of an event of it to invite them all along. The point was to keep it all low key and chilled out, which it was… and also quite a lot of fun.

The morning ceremony at our Bristol wedding was short and sweet, we didn’t have any readings or exchange rings as we saved all that for the following week. We did, however, have an exciting surprise guest as my friend had just flown in from Australia. I didn’t know she was going to be there so I was pretty surprised and happy when I saw her as me and Will walked in together!

We also took the opportunity to walk down the aisle together to Father John Misty’s ‘Honey Bear‘ – we deemed the lyrics too risque for our proper wedding – so we loved that.

Wedding Bride and Groom Entering Bristol Register Office

^^^ Super surprised! ^^^bristol-registery-office-bride-and-groom-signing-wedding-certificatebristol-wedding-bristol-registry-office

^^^These guys! ^^^bristol-wedding-bride-and-groom

After the ceremony, our group of nine took a little walk around the harbourside before heading to our favourite pub, The Christmas Steps. We had a yummy lunch and spent the majority of the rest of the day sat in the pub drinking bubbly, chatting and laughing. After a funny, merry walk home, the evening ended with a whole lot of dancing in our living room – which is pretty much my favourite way to end any night in Bristol.Bristol Wedding Bride and GroomBristol Wedding The Christmas Steps Pub Champagne BottlesBristol Wedding Bride Groom Black & White Christmas Steps

Doing our legal vows separately from our main wedding day may seem rather untraditional but it really did allow us to have a very personalised ceremony the following week in Devon. This included our own vows and our ceremony being written and led by a friend, which was incredibly special. The day of ‘the legal bit’ turned out to be pretty special too and I also love that we sort of managed to get married in both a beautiful farm by the sea and got our Bristol wedding in our darling home city – who says you can’t have your (wedding) cake and eat it too?!

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A year on and I’ve noticed many couples  seem to be choosing to do something similar to enable freedom on their ‘main’ wedding day. It’s definitely one of the best decisions we made and I’d certainly recommend it if you want to use a beautiful venue that might not have a license or don’t want to ferry people from one venue to another. That said some people might feel that doing the legal bit on a different day takes away from the big day somehow. What do you think? Would it / did it matter to you?

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